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The Lie: If a Woman Doesn’t Bleed, She’s Not a Virgin
Debunking the Myth That Has Controlled Women for Centuries
For generations, the idea that a woman must bleed during her first sexual experience has been used to judge, shame, and control her. This myth has been passed down through cultures, reinforced by outdated beliefs, and weaponized against women’s autonomy. But here’s the truth: the absence of bleeding is not an indicator of virginity, and it never was.
It’s time to dismantle this harmful lie and replace it with facts, science, and a deep understanding of the female body.
The Origins of the Virginity Myth
The belief that a woman should bleed on her wedding night — or during her first sexual experience — dates back to ancient times. In patriarchal societies, a woman’s worth was often tied to her virginity, and the presence of blood was seen as “proof” of her purity.
This idea became deeply ingrained in cultural and religious traditions, leading to dangerous practices such as virginity testing, forced hymen examinations, and even honor-based violence.
But there’s a fundamental problem: this entire notion is biologically inaccurate.
