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How Casual Sex Taught Me the True Meaning of Intimacy
Ditching Shame, Redefining Desire, and Finally Owning My Pleasure
When a woman openly admits she enjoys casual sex, society often rushes to label her — reckless, emotionally detached, or even morally bankrupt. I used to believe those same stereotypes. I spent years convinced that sex was only meaningful within the confines of commitment.
But here’s my confession: Casual sex has become my new favorite kind.
Not because I’m indifferent to intimacy, but because for the first time in my life, I finally understand what true intimacy feels like.
The Weight of Shame: How I Lost My Connection to Pleasure
Sex was never meant to be a source of guilt, yet for most of my life, that’s exactly what it was. Growing up in a religious and conservative environment, I was taught that sex was a sacred act reserved for marriage.
I still remember the moment I realized I had “lost” my virginity. My stomach twisted in knots, my heart pounded with fear. I had committed the ultimate sin.
What should have been an act of connection became a source of anxiety.
Even within my long-term relationships, the pressure never eased. Sex felt like something I was obligated to…
